♡20 Simple Ways to Start a Condolence Message

Sometimes the hardest part is just getting started when writing a message of sympathy or condolence. Below are 20 different sentences you could start with, and they may give you ideas of your own.

20 Ways to Start a Condolence Message

My deepest sympathy to you and your family during this difficult time.

My heart goes out to you during this time of loss.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

My sincere condolences to you and your loved ones.

I am here for you and your family in any way you need.

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family on your loss.

My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.

I am deeply sorry for your loss and send my love and support.

My deepest sympathy goes out to you and your loved ones.

My condolences to you and your family.

My heart is heavy for your loss and I am here for you.

I am so sorry for your loss, please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

My heart goes out to you and your family during this difficult time.

I am sending my deepest sympathy and support to you and your loved ones.

Please accept my heartfelt condolences for your loss.

I send my deepest sympathy and love to you and your family during this difficult time.

My heart aches for you and your loved ones during this difficult time.

I extend my deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family.

My heart is heavy with sorrow for your loss, please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Please accept my deepest sympathy and condolences during this difficult time.

Then Add Something Personal

An opening line is just the beginning. What people treasure most is the sentence that comes next, the one only you could write. Try one of these:

• Say their name. “I’ll always remember Ruth’s laugh at the church picnics.”
• Share a memory. “Your dad taught me how to fish when I was eight, and I still use his knot.”
• Name a quality. “She was the kindest person in every room.”
• Make a specific offer. “I’ll bring dinner on Tuesday” is easier to accept than “let me know if you need anything.”

How to End a Condolence Message

Keep the closing warm and simple: “With love,” “Holding you close,” “Thinking of you,” or “With deepest sympathy.” There is no need to tell a grieving person how they should feel or that everything happens for a reason. A short, honest message is always enough.

Sending a Card and a Keepsake

Many people like to send a small remembrance gift along with their card, such as a photo keychain or ornament with their loved one’s name. You can find more ideas in my guide to memorial gifts, and for the loss of a pet, see pet loss sympathy gifts and what to write.